Why your friends will usually be the last to support your new ‘thing’

And why that’s perfectly okay

Photo: Cristina Cerda

I remember when I started blogging years ago. When I got ANYONE to read my stuff, let alone share it, I’d be beyond ecstatic.

I posted my first few on Facebook and got a solid handful of likes from personal friends/family. I even got a couple shares. I was stoked. But it was kind of a novelty at first.

Cool, Jonas is blogging. Yay.

After awhile, I noticed something. Those likes and shares started dwindling. Pretty drastically.

For the longest time, I gotta be honest, I was a little bitter. These are my FRIENDS, for Chrissake. Each and every one of them should like and share and repost every single one of my blogs. I had about 300 Facebook friends, 100 or so of which I personally knew, so I should have at least a hundred likes and shares for each post, right? I mean, c’mon people, it only takes a second. We ARE friends, aren’t we?

For those of you who are considering sharing your words/art in public, just know — this is a thing. Your friends will not be too crazy-receptive to your new thing. (Pro tip: This isn’t only in the blogging world, but in just about everything else too — careers, relationships, health, etc.)

And you know what?

That’s perfectly fine.

Your friends have seen you fart.

They knew you when that one girl kept using you and dumping you and using you and dumping you and all you did was stand there and take it.

Your friends were the ones you borrowed money from and never paid them back.

They’ve seen your weaknesses. Maybe they’ve been bitten a time or two by you.

Plus, they kinda like you where you are now. Get any bigger and you might get all uppity. No one wants to be friends with an uppity person.

So, just know this at the outset and adjust. Don’t put it on them. I started posting on Medium because I could count on one hand how many of my friends were on there. I hate posting to Facebook because most of my friends are there and I don’t want them to feel like they need to ‘like’ another one of Jonas’ stupid posts (but thank you to the ones who do — I love you too).

I might be being a little harsh on friends here. A lot of mine have been plenty supportive. But you get the point…

Your friends are your friends. Go find your audience.


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