I need more reverence in my life

Photo by Jeremy Yap

I was raised in the generation of MTV.

Not MTV as it is now. But, like, the old-school MTV. Beavis and Butthead, Unplugged, Real World, Yo! MTV Raps and Road Rules.

My generation, the xennials (taking cues from the generation or two before ours), were really good at setting fire to cultural sacred cows. Question everything. Tear down every metanarrative in sight. The only way is our own individual way before us.

Most of us alive today have this in our cultural blood (yes, I’m even talking to you boomers).

When the advent of the social web (circa 2008), I remember a big thing was to swear online (seems that this trend is working its way down to book publishing with all the titles like The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck, F*ck This Shit Show, Zen as F*ck, Unfu*k Yourself, and Calm the F*ck Down — all published in 2018).

I’m guilty of it too. Though I’ve never gotten too carried away, I used to swear a bit on this blog. However — and maybe it’s just because I’m getting older and have a kid who can almost read now — I find most profanity and blatant irreverence abhorrent these days. Like, I recoil from it.

Now, there’s nothing like a well-used swear word. Some people can pull it off (like Samuel L. Jackson in his seminal children’s book Go the F**k to Sleep). But they have to absolutely own it. They have to wear profanity like their comfy, tattered college hoody.

If it’s at all a ‘tactic’, I’m out. And most people these days (yes, the authors above) use it as a ‘tactic’.

I’m so over tactics — especially shock tactics. My mental digestion system rejects it now.

All of this to say…

I need more reverence in my life these days.

Seriously. I want to be audaciously reverent. I really dig people who can be respectful but strong and secure in who they are. It’s a hard balance to strike, but it’s so what I’m aiming for.

Have a look at the first definition of the word (via dictionary.com)…


[rev-er-uhns, rev-ruhns]

¹a feeling or attitude of deep respect tinged with awe; veneration.

I mean, right?! I know it’s a churchey word, but isn’t that good stuff??!!

Tinged with awe. 
Deep respect.

I want — need — more of this.

I don’t know about you, but I’m at a place in life where I’m tired of tearing things down. I want to reclaim old things (words, especially) and build things up.

I want to move through life — not with a condescending and irreverent smirk, but with a drunken reverence fueled by awe and veneration.

Reverence is a big word for me this year.

Irreverence is so 2018:)