On being loved (again)

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I touched on this yesterday (click here if you didn’t read yesterday’s post), but I’m not sure if I got my main point across (it happens sometimes). So today I want to really want to drive home my main point about this whole revelation I’m having around love.

‘Loving yourself’ is an incredible spiritual concept. It’s one of my favorites. Before you can love others, you have to love yourself.

Maybe you practice this. Maybe you’ve done the Louise Hay trick and looked into the mirror while reciting, “I love myself,” until you’ve felt… something click.

I have to admit, this opened me up to more self love. But it was work. And its effects faded quickly.

Let’s work backwards here real quick…

We’ve established that it’s really hard to love others if you don’t love yourself.

But here’s the kicker (and it’s what’s blowing my mind right now)…

Before you love yourself, you have to feel loved.

Whuh?! A cosmic conundrum, indeed. Seems like an impossible equation, right? Like, if this was the case, love would deem itself impossible. But hang with me here…

Okay, so, by this theory,

The first step is to feel loved so we can love ourselves (and, in turn, love others). The problem is when we look for love in the world from fellow humans who are as ego-driven, flighty, and scared as we are…

Love from the world is fleeting.

This is where the belief of a loving indwelling spirit has value.

Something in me knows that there’s an endlessly loving presence behind my insecure, flighty, terrified thoughts in the moment. If I quiet my mind, it’s there in full vibrancy.

The love of God — the love of the Divine indwelling presence — is where we get filled up.

No, you don’t have to be religious to get this.

The love of God is not a love from an ego — either ours or another’s. It’s a fully unconditional love that’s never more than one released thought away.

How much love from the Divine can you allow yourself to feel? 
Can you only take in a spoonful before the cynicism kicks in? 
Or can you open yourself to an ocean of it?

Like I said yesterday, the choice is totally yours.

Jonas Ellison is a spiritual counselor and blogging coach who writes shortish preachments in Higher Thoughts on the daily. To jump on his mailing list and get his free email course as a gift of his undying gratitude, do your thing below…