Only love

Image: Andrew Walton

I’ve read it before (maybe you have too):

There’s only two emotions, love and fear (but only love is real).

I’ve read this a couple places (no, I didn’t make it up). I think here and here (sorry if I’m missing a couple others).

The first part of the sentence made sense from the get-go. The part about only having two emotions.

But the part about only love being real got me.

Fear, I’ve always believed, is very real. I’ve felt it in very real circumstances. It’s made my heart beat faster, my fists clench, and my vision narrow.

But now I get it. And I want to share this nugget of truth with you…

Love is the only thing that’s real.

Fear, we humans made up.

It’s a harsh truth, but it works. Think about it…

Love is what holds this whole thing together. Without love, all of it literally crumbles.

Love is…. Ahhhhhh. Yes. You know you’re in a state of love when you’re warm inside. When you’re in the flow. When you can love boldly and all-inclusively without any inhibition (no, I know what you’re thinking, I’m not talking about hedonistically unrestrained carnal sex — if you look closely, there’s a strong underlying feeling of fear/insecurity when one partakes in this).

Love is the fabric of relationship in all of the universe. Atoms stick together and break apart in a certain way. They don’t try to trick each other or harm themselves. They just… Dance.

Fear is a story. Fear is an arrangement we humans made up when we created the idea that we’re separate from the all, and we’ve passed this story down, generation to generation — not only through our words, but through our genetics.

Now… There’s a difference between fear and alertness. If you’re being physically threatened, I’d argue that you’re in a heightened state of alertness. You’re in action, doing whatever it takes to stay alive. Every animal in the world has this instilled in them. This is not the kind of fear I’m talking about.

Fear is when we sit at home stressed out of our minds while we drink clean water, eat garlic bread, and watch Netflix in our J-Crew pajamas.

Fear is when we look at someone’s skin color and automagically deem them ‘dangerous’, ‘lesser-than’, or even ‘the chosen ones’.

Fear is when we have a bad day at the office and come home looking for a fight.

Fear hates itself and projects that hate onto everyone else.

Fear is in us, but it’s not real as far as creation goes. 
Creation just goes on… Creating… 
In Love.


[Jonas Ellison is a spiritual writer, teacher, practitioner, and an interfaith minister-in-training. He helps people transform their lives through applied spirituality while documenting his journey along the way. To subscribe via email to his updates and exclusive content, click here.]