Why the ‘just be yourself’ rhetoric is kinda bullsh*t

Image: Yury Orlov

Imagine something…

You are you, just as you are right now… Forever.

Sound soul-fulfilling? Life-affirming?

Right… Me neither.

Listen, I get it. I’m a huuuge believer in acceptance. Huge. Loving yourself is one of the most spiritually empowering things you can do.

But I also know there’s something in me (which, I’m guessing is in you too) that propels me forward. That tells me that the person I used to be is someone I don’t really care to be any longer.

It’s not that I was some kind of horrible guy. It’s not that I don’t love and accept that past version(s) of myself. I understand that the old Jonas lived the way he did based on what he understood at the time.

But I can also see that, in the future, I want to be in a better place. I want to be able to give more. I want to have more time to offer to loved ones. I want to enjoy life more than I do now. I want to deepen my relationships and tend to my friendships better. I want to be healthier, happier, and more fulfilled.

Is there anything wrong with accepting myself while wanting more? I don’t think so.

Progress is the soul of the universe.

Progress. Just. Is.

We’re expanding. Always have been. Always will be.

To infinity and beyond.
-Buzz Lightyear

The more we accept ourselves while saying yes to what is to come, the more we welcome this expansion instead of resisting it (and I think we all know how much it hurts to fight it).

Digging my heels in to the current version of me and stubbornly staying the same doesn’t seem too awesome. Or realistic.

Say yes to what-is. Fall head-over-heels in love with what-is. But never close yourself off to your innate expansion.

It’s a delicate dance. One can easily mistake acceptance for complacence. The ‘just be yourself’ maxim can easily keep one stuck in their outmoded, limited, restrictive ways of being in the world.

Acceptance and complacence are two totally different things.

Like the great Reverend Michael Beckwith recently said, “Shed some baggage and embrace a higher frequency.”

Look towards expansion and greater good while loving the sh*t out of the world in front of your nose like it’s the best thing ever.

One of the best prayers in the world consists of one word…


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