Putting the ego on notice

Image: Andrés Sanz

To awaken from the dream of the ego, we must make it feel as uncomfortable as possible.

Unfortunately, this means being okay with feeling uncomfortable yourself. See, you must realize, what’s actually uncomfortable ISN’T YOU. It’s the ego.

You can verify this by seeing how, after you make it through the discomfort, a higher part of you actually feels better and more alive for doing the thing the ego was telling you not to. Like you wanna fist-bump, high-five, or face-slap someone (in a fun, loving way, of course).

The ego speaks first and loudest. 
-A Course In Miracles

I’m finding that doing the opposite of this loud, obnoxious, knee-jerk, fear-based first inclination is almost always the right thing to do.

Here’s an example:

You (to yourself): I really want to raise my rates…
Your ego: Who the hell do you think you are to raise your rates? Two more years, at least, then check back with me.
Your inclination: Yeah, you’re right. What was I thinking?
What you’re gonna tell your ego instead: Thanks, but no thanks, ego. I’m raising my rates and stepping into my power. Piss off.

You (to yourself): I want to spend more time with my family…
Your ego: Oh yeah? Well, if you do that, you’ll fall behind, lose your edge, make less money, go broke, and die on the streets.
Your inclination: Yeah, you’re right. What was I thinking?
What you’re gonna tell your ego instead: Wow, really, ego? I’m setting the precedent to live my life and enjoy my family right now. I know that the Universe will respond in-kind. Like I said before… Piss off.

That’s how it goes. Seems simple on the page. But it takes people years — lifetimes — to find the courage to do this. To do the opposite.

So do the opposite. Let the ego feel uncomfortable as you step into the new way of doing things. The way of love, joy, and good mojo — as defenseless as it seams.

Put the ego on notice.

Do the opposite. Overcompensate at first. This is how we recalibrate. We go past our edge. We scare ourselves. Again and again. Then, it soon becomes the new natural.

[Jonas Ellison is a spiritual writer, teacher, practitioner, and an interfaith minister-in-training. He helps people transform their lives through applied spirituality while documenting his journey along the way. To subscribe via email to his updates and exclusive content, click here.]